Septicman:
Rik, I don't think many if any are saying that amps, CD players, speakers etc. sound the same. They patently don't, however, from a personal point of view I would only be interested in looking at kit that had completely neutral reproduction as its goal. I don't want components that colour the sound. Your goals may be different of course, and there is plenty of kit out there to accommodate your tastes. If your sound isn't what you want though, you've probably chosen components you aren't happy with, which is why you're tweaking.
Accessories seem to be the thing that gets everyone talking. Cables, stands and so on. For example, there is a relatively "cheap" mains cable around that GUARANTEES to improve your sound by orders of magnitude. But what does this guarantee mean in real terms? I get to keep the cable for free if it doesn't work? My postage is refunded both ways? I'm told to get lost because my ears aren't up to it? Can you not see why certain aspects of audiophilia are ridiculous? We're talking about a cable that simply acts as a copper conductor, but which has a huge mark up from cost. Unless the physical properties of the cable have been manipulated, so that it no longer acts like copper, then there CANNOT be a difference between a £3.99 kettle lead from B&Q and something costing very much more. If the cable values have been manipulated, then your system no longer sounds as the designer intended, which in turn may have an effect on the rest of your system - thus leading to the need for more tweaking.....
The fact that 'some' blind tests have tried to make it out that all amps above a couple of hundred quid are the same REALLY dents my faith in blind tests for hifi at least. The MAJOR problem I have with blind tests is the rule that you must take RANDOM people. The fact is that just as some people can run faster than others, so too people can HEAR better than others. So why not use people who CAN hear better? But if we broke the 'random' rule the blind test fanatics would cry foul. Its a bit of a vicious circle.
As for the cable phenomenom. Your sort of half right except cables also make a difference if they lessen EMI interference and lessen RFI interference. If 2 cables are EXACTLY the same then im with you all the way regardless if one costs a quid and the other costs 1k.
I also understand you wanting no 'colouration' with different cables and equipment. I too want as close a sound to 'natural' as a I can possibly get but I appreciate other people might want a 'brighter' or 'warmer' sound or whatever