BenLaw said:
Am on the phone, so a bit tricky to respond in detail. Yes, it was the right film, I added both direct off your helpful links in the post I quoted.
Yes, I thought that might have been why you thought I'd like it. As you say, no Snowtown, but I find most depictions of rape pretty bleak and as soon as we had Sibel going to Turkey a rape scene seemed inevitable (although if I'd had to put money on it it would have been in the circumstances of the stabbing).
I wasn't thinking specifically about the scenes set in Istanbul, but about the film more generally and the characters' instincts for self-destruction, though both Cahit and Sibel ultimately become more responsible and less self-destructive, despite ending the film apart.
In an odd way it's a cathartic relationship with (in my view) subtle character arcs. If I've one criticism, at least with regard to plausibility, it's that Cahit's jail term seemed rather short.
BenLaw said:
I got the multiculturalism and alternative culture things, although a lack of familiarity with that particular German subculture made it difficult for me to judge its authenticity. I actually felt slightly more at home in the Istanbul scenes as I recognised a number of the locations.
I especially liked the first hour and a bit while we remained in Germany. I found the four main characters convincing and well portrayed. I did feel the family were portrayed a little stereotypically, which in itself I don't have a problem with but would have liked a little more depth to that in order to accept it, especially where we have depictions of 'honour' behaviour. Once we went to Turkey I found the bleakness less light hearted and more predictable.
I grew up with a very multicultural set of friends and I can identify with many of the cultural issues depicted. Obviously the title refers to a collision of Turkish and Northern European cultures; and as such deals with the encounter of religious patriarchy and Western liberalism.
For me, the depiction was very frank and rang very true with my experiences as a white British male who became close friends with people from diverse cultural backgrounds. The clash of cultures described above is both geographical/cultural and generational. And I don't think the film takes a judgemental stance, but rather seeks to explore some of the resulting tensions by looking at the Turkish-German experience.
BenLaw said:
I also felt there was insufficient time spent on Sibel in order for me to understand the motivations behind the final choice. For the reason you mention, I'm more than happy to have that outcome but I didn't feel I knew Sibel and her situation well enough, rather than the obvious general points that would apply to anyone in that situation, to understand the decision.
I thought Sibel's final decision made complete sense. While she loved Cahit, Sibel prioritised her child's welfare over someone who had cleaned up his act, but wasn't the child's father, and had a history of instability and nihilistic behaviour.
In fact, I liked the film so much because the ending felt entirely right, to me. While a part of me wished they'd end the film together (I was invested in the characters enough to switch off the critical/analytical part of my brain, which doesn't happen often), I also felt that Sibel made the right decision, however difficult.
Perhaps the film's greatest achievement is the extent to which viewers empathised with characters from "other" cultural backgrounds (have a read of Amazon customer reviews).
In this regard the film cuts across cultural divisions and deals with universal human experiences, in a way that seeks to foster understanding, without resorting to platitudes or suggesting a problem-free multicultural/Diasporic experience. In other words, I think it's a more progressive text than first appears.
BenLaw said:
I too enjoyed the musical interludes, and the soundtrack more generally. While I've concentrated on the negatives, which I know can come across as harsh when it's a film one likes, I really enjoyed the film and am very glad I watched it.
That's no problem. I'd rather people say what they think. If only we'd seen goats transported across the Bosphorus (of course a strait dividing Eastern and Western cultures, and thus emblematic of the film's themes)...
BenLaw said:
I would strongly recommend you watch Broken Wings (2002) given you like this film and the reasons for it.
Thanks for the recommendation. I haven't seen the film, so I had a quick read. I'll have to check it out and let you know what I think.