Didn't realise you had a subwoofer in the system, these can complicate matters. I'd try to get you set-up working well without the subwoofer on to start with and then adjust as necessary.So I did some experimenting last night. I reduced the tonearm weight and tracking force slightly. Most importantly I started messing with the phase and crossover settings on my subwoofer. I never really adjusted these before. The old stylus produced sound relatively unchanged regardless of phase or crossover setting. Gain was the only thing I ever adjusted. With this new needle adjusting the sub makes a significant difference. The cartridge is starting to grow on me.
Still would like to find a more adjustable turntable with VTA. Most that have this feature are outside my budget.
Glad to hear cartridge is growing on you.