We are in the middle of decorating with the living room finished apart from new windows, while it was done I removed my hi-fi, TV as we had new carpets etc and once the windows are done I can put my hi-fi back and move the TV from the corner (I hate tv;s in the corner and I can't get the speakers at the side of it while its there), BUT........now the misses (not married but together for 20 years) is telling me she likes the tv in the corner and sees no reason why I need speakes for the tv as the sound is good enough but worse than that she thinks the room looks better without my hi-fi and speakes, (not surround sound, just 2 floor standing speakers with Marantz separates), I was going to get smaller standmount speakes but shes not happy even if I get smaller speakers, music has always been important to me I don't have a spare room to use and just have a Denon M39 in the bedroom, because of the hours I work I can listen most days while she is at work, so I've never forced her to listen, I am missing my music and indeed the big tv sound when watching movies. Am I been unreasonable ? Advise please.
Would you leave or give up your hi-fi (advise please)
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BigH
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I agree with you, TV in corner is bad and its not good for your neck, tell its better for you to look at the tv straight on not at an angle. As for hifi you need to take a stand, tell her music is important to you. Not unreasonable, if anything she is being unreasonable.
busb
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knaithrover
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Stick to what you feel is right. If hifi is a hobby for you then it should have a place in your house. If not in the living room then somewhere else where you feel comfortable.
I can't help feeling it's in both's best interest to have it just where it was. Not a good idea to want to change what is important to someone else. I think you need to (reasonably and kindly) draw a line here. You need to have room to be you. It's in the best interest of the relationship.
I can't help feeling it's in both's best interest to have it just where it was. Not a good idea to want to change what is important to someone else. I think you need to (reasonably and kindly) draw a line here. You need to have room to be you. It's in the best interest of the relationship.
Infiniteloop
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If somebody doesn't love you enough to let you indulge in something that really matters to you (music is so much more than just a mere 'hobby'), you need to ask yourself if you're with the right person (I think you're already doing this).
I know what I'd do.
I know what I'd do.
bigfish786
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Lol......
It's a test.
20yrs and no ring?
This is not about your speakers - put your speakers back. Maybe invest in a new rack/cabinet. When she comes Home put some soft music on and propose to the woman - put a ring on her finger and attempt to live happily ever after.
In your heart you know that's what it's all about.
Time to grow up..... ;-)
It's a test.
20yrs and no ring?
This is not about your speakers - put your speakers back. Maybe invest in a new rack/cabinet. When she comes Home put some soft music on and propose to the woman - put a ring on her finger and attempt to live happily ever after.
In your heart you know that's what it's all about.
Time to grow up..... ;-)
Blacksabbath25
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Yes I agree you have to stand your ground it's your hobby if she loves you then I would of thought the Hifi would not be an issue to her . I would just be honest with her and tell here that you got to have your music and your Hifi and that's it . But the other options will be head phones which is not much fun . Just be honest with her that's all you can do
jjbomber
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BigH said:
Exactly. Have you ever been to the cinema and seen the screen in the corner? Neither has anybody else. It has to be in the middle.
Sell the house and buy one with two rooms.
chebby
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Do you want hifi advice or relationship counselling? If she doesn't realise this hobby is an important part of your life, then you've wasted 20 years of it. Visit any internet forum concerned with any predominantly-male hobby and it won't be too long before you come across the "my wife/partner doesn't appreciate my hobby" type of threads. Not all women are like that, not even nearly, but those who are, I'm not sure exactly what they want us to do with our time. They don't like blokes who are out every night with their mates blowing their money on booze or gambling, but equally they moan at indoor types with creative hobbies.
But no one here can tell you what to do. It's not our place.
But no one here can tell you what to do. It's not our place.
Al ears
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Thompsonuxb said:
+1
Unless you wimp out and move the complete hifi system to the bedroom. (P.S.: Don't do this because it will really p her off. )
tino
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I'm sure you could compromise: TV in the middle, get some new unobtrusive hifi, hidden away and maybe some discrete wall mounted speakers, or something like the Elipson Planet M which are small and can be wall, ceiling, stand, or table top mounted.
Al ears
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knaithrover
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Kitkat, would your room be suitable for a projector system?
They do have a certain running cost with the bulbs every so often. But once you start watching Match of the Day or Blu Ray films on a projector system, watching them on a TV becomes an anti-climax. Plus there's the added sneaky benefits of keeping your speakers and getting the picture away from the corner.
They do have a certain running cost with the bulbs every so often. But once you start watching Match of the Day or Blu Ray films on a projector system, watching them on a TV becomes an anti-climax. Plus there's the added sneaky benefits of keeping your speakers and getting the picture away from the corner.
Not being unreasonable at all. Why should you give up something you love so much just because she doesn't like how it looks. Style over substance and completely ridiculous to expect you to forego music for something so trivial.
if she won't budge on the floor stranding speakers then how about something like the Bowers & Wilkins A5 or A7? Sleek stylish and fits on any shelf area.
if she won't budge on the floor stranding speakers then how about something like the Bowers & Wilkins A5 or A7? Sleek stylish and fits on any shelf area.
Are you guys seriously telling this poor man to leave his partner of 20 years over a few bits of marantz hifi?
Preposterous.
Now if it was cyrus ... ;-)
Preposterous.
Now if it was cyrus ... ;-)
Al ears
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drummerman said:
Or Abrahamsen.......... Sorry. I'll get my coat!
Having said that she might love the blingy gold knobs....
knaithrover
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