Well, I just returned from a friends house, who has a B&O system.
From his descriptions I have wondered whether I was totaly on the wrong side, looking for speakers, amplifier etc, for all this time. The system I auditioned costs 5000GBP.
What I have to say is that I listened to a well refined, crystal clear, attractive sounding device. Was it good? It was attractive and with very slight distortion at high levels.
Was it a good "music" or a good "sound"? It was a good sound.
Also it had no weight, and no bass at all.
Now I came back home and I'm glad to have my cheep-ish B&Ws playing with a cheep-ish ARCAM SOLO.
At least they try to play music.